Touch and physical intimacy.
Physical intimacy is one of the most basic human needs. Lack of touch and physical intimacy can make us ill and depressed. I’m not talking about s🌸xual intimacy, but rather touch, hugs, sleeping next to someone etc.
... rarely looks like this in reality. But it almost always looks like this in social media. The precious moments that are just filled with gold. Laughter. Pure joy.
But what about all the pulling of mothers in every imaginable direction.... physically, mentally and emotionally? The kid(s) needs to eat, poop, take a shower, get dressed... S(he) demands the iPad or otherwise there’s a food strike. Your husband/partner needs a time out to breath or to create (something)… You need to deliver something ASAP for work. Your friend is in a relationship crises and you need to be there for her.... You can feel your heart racing just reading this… BUT WAIT a minute. Stop. Breath....
Today I’m honoring you with one of your favorite flowers. Thank you for holding me. For loving me abundantly (but not unconditionally ;)). For teaching me to be a child of nature. For teaching me to be proud of who I am. To stand up for myself. To be in my power. Thank you for teaching me to love my body and to be proud of it.
One of the most powerful sets of words I know. Unbelievably enough it’s a line I’ve said and been told twice the past weeks. In two of my most treasured and important relationships. The amount of pain associated with this week is tremendous. But the healing that is taking place and that I am taking myself through is even bigger.
Mmm, what is the big sweet secret around attracting what you REALLY want?
So many women I know and many of my clients are NOT COMPLETELY satisfied with where they are in life and they want to attract something better, newer, more joyful into their lives. They basically want to feel more happy. But they are actually not CLEAR on what it is they really want to attract.
So far in my life, I haven’t gone through one single relationship without facing the ugly face of rejection. Feeling rejected is something that my system is hyper sensitive to. It takes all kinds of silly and not so silly forms. The feeling of being the one that wants to spend more time together, the feeling of wanting more sex than the one I’m sharing bed with, the need of physical closeness...
I encourage you to make a fabulous commitment this year. A commitment to follow what lights you up, to follow your heart, your power and your Yoni (pussy) this year. YEAH, let’s take a step into this juicy subject that really is my core passion and where I put a lot of focus within my work. Female embodiment and making women (and couples) feel super connected to themselves, their bodies, their minds, souls and sexuality. This is such a juicy and endless topic and it really goes perfectly hand in hand with working through grief and shadows and darkness. Because if you don’t work through your darkness, if you’re not willing to deeply heal and make friends with your shadows you won’t be able to experience the total bliss and high vibe state of living that is actually available to all of us. Being haunted by unprocessed guilt, pain, shame, grief is a totally numbing state that most people instinctively feel that they want to move out of, and some people actually take action on doing so. Yay to you!
But I also want to touch on a touchy subject (because that’s what I do ;))… What can also be a numbing state is to be a mother. We can probably all agree on the fact that being a mom (or dad) is the outstanding biggest blessing and source of happiness in life. BUT, its also completely exhausting. And it’s ok to feel that it is. You don’t love your kids less for being tired and having the haunting feeling of needing alone time. Needing to own your own body, your own space. Because you actually really do. And you deserve to create this space for yourself. By giving it to yourself you will be a much better parent, partner and version of yourself. And I’m not talking about the ‘volunteering to go grocery shopping just to get some alone time’… I mean really taking alone time to dig into yourself, your body, spirit and your juicy sexuality (that’s maybe not so juicy at the moment). Its magnificent and its an endless source of not just pleasure but also creativity and energy that you can use in all areas of your life.
My experience is that especially us women tend to almost completely forget about ourselves as we become mothers. We give it all to our kids. And to our jobs. And our friends. Families. And maybe to our beloved partners that are starving for love and attention just as much as we are. And then we end up empty. Our cup is empty but we keep pouring from it to give to others, to have time to accomplish everything, to be all the things that society wants you to be.
You already feel what I’m about to say – this is not sustainable. You know you need to change the situation but you’re too tired and lacking energy to do so. I encourage you to wake the fuck up, your life is passing by and you want to enjoy it not endure it. Working with women’s (and couples) sexuality really lights me up. Because this brings a complete transformation to the entire life. And it’s actually not so difficult, you just need to understand the basics behind how your body is working and gather the knowledge on how to get juicy and vibrating (again). You were born with your shakti energy (= life force energy) flowing free in your body. As life goes by ‘things’ like parents, society, kids etc put blocks on that life force energy and eventually we tend to become restricted and almost numb. Like soldiers in our own bodies. Instead of feeling this amazing energy running from your yoni to your entire body you basically don’t feel anything at all. You just do. And work. And produce. A lot of times this unfortunately goes hand in hand with not feeling a lot during sex with our partners either. More about this in a later post.
So why don’t you commit to making 2018 the year you come back to your body. The year you become the sexy and wild woman (or man) you were born to be. The year you become the version of yourself you really want to be. Where you make decisions from a point of crystal clear intuition and deep connection with yourself.
To celebrate all this juiciness and to encourage you to take action I offer the first 5 women signing up for the female embodiment program in 2018 a 15% discount and a super sexy gift to go with the program. I invite you to dive into the high vibes and let me be your guide on your way to power, pleasure and creativity!
I wish you so much juicy love this beautiful new year!
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